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Sexual performance anxiety            

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Sexual performance anxiety is relatively common among men and women. It’s not always related to the inability to perform well on the bed but is conceived as a mental fear of not performing well. The individual suffers from bouts of anxiety which interferes with his sexual performance.

 

What happens during sexual performance anxiety?

Even if you are with the person you are comfortable having sex with, the anxiety can negate your sexual interactions. Your mind is preoccupied with too many thoughts which may lead to diminished sexual stimulation.

Men who suffer from sexual performance anxiety usually experience erection problems due to the stressed out mind. Anxiety issues are less common in women. However, if they have anorgasmia (the inability to have an orgasm) or vaginismus (the inability to relax the muscles of the vagina) then anxiety issues can overcome their sexual performance. 

Overdose of anxiety to have sex, ultimately affects your sexual endeavours and leads to a dissatisfaction in sex life.

 

What are the reasons behind performance anxiety?

There could be several reasons behind experiencing this kind of sexual anxiety and they are: 

  • Constant worries regarding your potential to satisfy your partner and achieving a proper erection.
  • Fear of premature ejaculation.
  • Fear of being rejected from your partner while having sex.
  • Men and women can become anxious about not reaching orgasm or too long time to reach the climax.
  • Lack of self confidence, self esteem and self image. Sometimes overweight people may find themselves sexually unappealing.
  • From relationship issues. 
Your brain releases chemicals when your mind is in fear, which interfere with your sexual performance.

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Clinical diagnosis of sexual performance anxiety

You must seek help from a sex therapist on experiencing sexual performance anxiety. Explain him properly the kind of emotional surge you encounter before indulging in sex and other problems that you might be suffering from. You doctor will conduct a medical diagnosis to treat the underlying sexual problem (for example premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, etc.).

Furthermore, your doctor will help you to understand the problem in a better way and offer you counselling to beat the anxiety. This way you can gain control over your mind, understand your sexual orientation and boost your sexual performance. You may be suggested OTC sex pills like Viagra for a certain time.

 

Self help for overcoming sexual performance anxiety

Progressive relaxation techniques- You mind needs to relax. So rest yourself before having sex. Listen to music, meditate, breathe smoothly and try tensing and relaxing the muscles of your hands, toes, legs, buttocks, etc.

Communicate with your partner- Yes, be honest with your partner about the problems you are facing. Try to solve it out together to improve your sex life.

Change of ambiance and tactics: If that old trodden on-bed sex ambiance is causing anxiety issues, then change it. Get more creative and raunchy with your partner while giving him/her a massage, have sex under the shower or in bathtub or wherever you prefer.

Divert your mind from irrational thoughts- Distractions help to overcome anxiety. First, you have to stop thinking. Instead, watch an erotic movie to excite yourself, play romantic movies, and indulge in good foreplay to make the experience immensely pleasurable.

Written by: healthplus24.com team
Date last updated: May 27, 2014